Lets talk about Sex

... Or more accurately, when it is not okay to have sex with a person.

It is NEVER okay to have sex with someone who does not give consent.

It is NEVER okay to have sex with someone who is unconscious for WHATEVER REASON

It is NEVER okay to have sex with someone who is under the influence of drugs or alcohol, as they cannot legally give consent

NEVER use "blue balls" as a way to guilt trip someone. NEVER guilt trip someone into sex in anyway, including but not limited too saying he/she is a  "tease" and he/she "led you on."

NEVER force someone to do something with you sexually that he or she is not comfortable with.

ALWAYS ask if it's okay first. Prior consent doesn't mean it's okay now.

ALWAYS respect the person's boundaries and wishes (i.e if the person asks you to stop, STOP)

ALWAYS wear protection. Any kind of protection works, but remember, birth control pills or shots may stop conception but they do not stop STDs. 

To have or not to have sex must be a mutual decision between two people (or more if that's what you all are okay with). If it isn't mutual, it is rape. Rape isn't just some strange person grabbing you and forcing you to have sex. It could be a friend, a relative, a coworker, a neighbor, etc. And it is rape or sexual molestation if consent is not given, or if the person said yes at first but then said no and you proceeded anyway. 

Sexual assault of any kind is extremely damaging to a person's psyche. And it is such an easy crime to avoid. Not the victims, but the perpetrators. There is NEVER an excuse to rape someone. Follow the golden rule, treat others as you would want to be treated, and we'll all be okay. 

NO ONE has the right to another person's body. I don't care if you're male, female, agender, transgender, or any other way you might identify. 

ASK AND RESPECT THE ANSWER. It isn't that difficult. No does and always will mean no. 

If you are a victim of sexual assault, ANY DEGREE OF SEXUAL ASSAULT IS EQUALLY VALID. You have a right to feel pain, you have a right to get justice, and you have a right to get help. You deserve help and you are a worthwhile person. Just because someone didn't realize how precious you are, doesn't make you less so. There is no shame in being assaulted. You have done nothing wrong and you did not deserve it. You were not asking for it. Don't let anyone else's lies destroy you. You are a human being and deserve to be treated with respect and dignity no matter what. Please, ask for the help you deserve. 

Call 1.800.656.HOPE (national sexual assault hotline).